In order to get a good grasp of how you react to situations that involve change, consider a scenario that involves a sudden financial windfall. For the sake of the scenario we'll say you earn £1,000 per month and get wind of a £10,000 payday that comes your way. Do you: a. get frantic and spend it all before it even shows up, so you can feel the sense of accomplishment of making the money b) spend the money wisely and invest it c) give it away to charity? d) be indifferent and move on with your life e) be pleased with the windfall, saying it could happen for some people and ignoring the others? f) be pleased and say that only happens in some people's movies? g) go on a huge buying spree to cover your bases? h) just sit back and wait?
It is not always easy to determine what feels good. It is easy though to determine what feels bad. This is because there is a difference between feeling good and feeling bad. You may get bad reactions from some situations, but that does not mean you do not deserve the money. It's very simple as there is only good and bad that is involved with the reactions that you have on different levels. So, in your anger and frustration you feel good. In anger and frustration is not the time to be pleased, it is the time to be angry. This is because the anger is the reaction you have to this sudden windfall of money and money does not always mean you deserve it. You are reacting to the situation. You are feeling the anger and so if you have the anger right now and go in anger and frustration you may not get the windfall.
Take a look at the reactions. The anger is present. You do not have to go into the anger right now. Look at the reactions and see what you feel is anger and what you feel is frustration. This is a very simple example of how you react to a situation. Think about it. What you feel is anger is a reaction to the situation and what you feel is frustration is a reaction to the situation. What you have is anger right now, you do not feel worthy of the money. You can get it. The anger is a feeling. So look at what you feel right now and see if you feel anger.
What you feel frustration is is a reaction to the situation and what you have is feeling like you are just one more face in a sea of faces and feeling like this will make you not want to get involved. You can get the money. The anger is a feeling. So look at what you feel right now and see if you feel frustration.
The anger that you feel right now is coming from your own self talk, that you think you deserve to get that money. This is the anger.
The anger that you feel right now is coming from your own self talk that you think you are a bad person and you deserve bad things to happen to you. This is the frustration.
The anger is in your head and comes from your own thoughts and not others.
Take a close look at your thoughts, take a close look at your thoughts and see how you are reacting. The thoughts that you feel anger coming from are your own thoughts and not someone else's thoughts.
The thoughts that you feel frustration coming from are someone else's thoughts and not your own thoughts.
Take a close look at how you feel right now. Are you angry and frustrated about this windfall or are you angry that you do not deserve this windfall. In this moment you do not think you deserve it. How do you feel right now?
Author - Chris
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